Friday, 11 March 2011
Ivy...More than Just a plant
I have a lot of friends, the closest ones are the ones i haven’t seen, they live on twitter and facebook, they sleep somewhere in my phone... some of them I've met and some I plan to meet. Some of them I'll never meet, Ivy falls into one of these categories. We never dated, we never met physically, we aren’t related and I have forgotten her birthday but she was someone I was really close to, Ivy...to me, she made me think of the word Ivy as more than just a plant. From when she followed me on twitter and was very nice to me that I felt she was tripping, to the moment she thought I was someone else (My brother Eddie). It became interesting as she immediately started comparing both of us and soon we were very good friends. She read by blogpost on "Trust" and told me she would steal it (LINK: http://andytrueword.blogspot.com/2010/05/trust-ramblings-of-sleepy-man-working.html ) Our friendship lasted for four months.
Staring at my phone today, I remember trying to call her on 3 days ago and her number was busy so I just chucked it away and never bothered. Ivy was an annoying friend who updated everything on her blackberry status, from what she was eating to how wicked Andy is for not talking to her today... Those frowns all of a sudden are now times to look back at and smile. I'm glad I kept in touch with her otherwise the pain would have been more. I remember when the illness started and she told me she was in Akwa Ibom for the Miss Akwa Ibom pageant. She said she felt ill and couldn’t move her arms. She dint win the pageant but she came second position and we laughed when I said she is hotter than the girl who won. Our last convo was two weeks ago when I was on my way to work and I noticed that we had moved from talking on phone everyday to once a week (a bad trend these days), So I called her and she said she was on admission and she was about to finish this drip and go home. I asked what was wrong with her and she said "the doctors gave one long name like that, i am better but pray for me o". Actually told her to pray about it and I will pray for her. In my short prayer i said to God, Please let this girl not die o! then I asked if it was HIV or if she was pregnant, we laughed about it and I said I would keep in touch... I woke up today to find out she is now "was"...
I'm not an emotional person, i dint shed a tear and I wont even if I tried and sometimes this worries me. I think about all the people I am close to and ask myself if I'd still be close to them three months later because these days, good friendships barely last more than five months. They either lead to sex, or to other friends or enemies and most often we just drift away possibly because we got bored or we judged them without giving them a chance. When last did you call that friend? when last did you say thank you and mean it? I have a lot of friends who I have stopped talking to just because I found out that I'm the only one who keeps in touch or the fact that if i don't say hey, they never check on me and so I say hey a couple of times then let them be. Some of these friends, I'll never see.
I lost a friend yesterday and it made me think, one thing i don’t say was "why", I would have felt so guilty if I kept quiet all along and was quietly mad at Ivy for drifting away but that's not the case, I swallowed that stupid egg called pride and checked on a friend and the last thing we both said was take care... Then came the tsunami, I saw mass destruction on TV today how lives and property was destroyed like a Spielberg movie in Japan. Everyday people die, everyday some family is in grief, everyday is a bad day for someone somewhere but if we have a reason to be happy, we should affect people around us somehow.
I have a lot of friends, the closest ones are the ones i haven’t seen, they live on twitter and facebook, they sleep somewhere in my phone... some of them I've met and some I plan to meet. Some of them I'll never meet, Ivy falls into one of these categories to me, SHE WAS MORE THAN JUST A FLOWER.
I told myself this wasn’t going to be one of my random rambling series but obviously I’m not a blogger, I just ramble... I had something constructive to write down but all of a sudden, I don’t know anymore... We Miss you Ivy and you are now forever in our hearts.